Deep Adaptation Coaching
How do we even begin to accommodate something so huge, uncertain and threatening as a ‘global predicament’ in our personal being, and in our busy lives?
That is what this coaching is all about.
Every one of us is different, so the coaching will be unique to you and your circumstances, disposition, values, talent, obligations, anxieties and worldview.
But there are five distinct elements of being human which we all share, which we can explore together. Exploring the elements will generate processes, practices and skillsets which will help you to become more present to the global situation without panic and overwhelm. The elements will generate your own inspired pathways towards resilience, regeneration, wisdom and enlivenment.
The Five Elements of Deep Adaptation
the That might be all you need to know to get in touch and find out more. But below is a more in depth explanation of what I do and why.
You are intelligent, informed, capable, talented and experienced. But the global situation is a different order of challenge, it is an unprecedented, species level, existential predicament we find ourselves in. You may find yourself in avoidance, distraction, grief and overwhelm, moments of hope and clarity, periods of fear, despair or panic. Are we really in collapse, can we come together to face these challenges, or will everything just unravel into brutal disintegration? What is the best we can aim for, where lies hope, how can I communicate what I feel, see, fear with people that just do not get it? How do we come to a steady and full expression of love as stresses accelerate around us? Each element is a path to Love if we choose to see it in that way.
All over the planet people are waking up to the sheer scale of the challenges we face, and digging deep to find an apropriate and proportionate response.
The five elements model is designed to decompress the overwhelm, it creates space to explore distinctly different parts of our being. It starts as a tender inquiry, to map out what in the world is going on for you, an overview and a deepening. We start to identify in which elements you are well resourced and in which areas you are indifferent, under-resourced, stuck and/or vulnerable. The areas in which you are well resourced are where you might collaborate with others, offer service and take bigger, bolder actions. The areas in which we find most difficulty we can identify processes, practices, and resources to help.
The five elements arise in the wisdom and folk traditions of both East and West. Each element represents a distinct area of human being …
Water – The element of water is all about emotions. Letting our feelings flow increases the rate of change we can handle. Learning to regulate our feelings keeps us even and sane. In this element we find unbearable compassion and let go of how things ought to be, could have been and should have been, and find greater acceptance of how they really are. Here we dare to express deeper grief and gratitude, and the myriad emotions of this epic moment. The unintegrated shadows of feelings and emotion are avoidance and hysteria.
Fire – The element of fire is all about values and passion. Connecting with our values affects the quality of change. When we connect with the values of the heart, we may become inflamed with a sense of mission, we may want to resist change the changes that transgress our core values and affect change that is inspired. Here we find courage and take risks, this is the element of Justice and of activism. The unintegrated shadows of fire are guilt, anger, shame, blame and burn-out.
Earth – The element of earth is about our own body, the body of the Earth, it is about work and material resources. This is about the substance of change and our livelihood. Here we build resilience, gather our resources, feed and take care of the body, build and maintain our home and our relationships and prepare the soil. Here we find and enact our deeper purpose. The unintegrated shadows of earth are materialism, survivalism, habit and routine.
Air – The element of air is about mind. Here we understand the processes of change. In this element we process information, belief, and knowledge, clarify and update our models and assumptions in order to make better sense of it all. Here we find and make meaning. We are all super-saturated with information and yet we are increasingly uncertain. The unintegrated shadows of air range through false certainty to paralysing doubt.
Spirit – The element of aether is spirit. Here we connect with all that we are, we find the still centre which integrates all change processes. In this element we resource ourselves in the unbroken so that we can become more present to that which is broken. The unintegrated shadows of spirit are by-passing, univolvement and negation of the material.
Topics which often arise…
Grief – How do we cope with wave after wave of loss and express our feelings without being swept away?
Communication – how do we express what we see, feel and fear and tend to keep to ourselves, how do we better communicate our insight with loved ones?
Sense making and meaning – how do we make better sense of what is happening, and how do we find meaning in it?
Hope – how do we orientate ourselves towards hope that is possible and achievable and not delusional and wishful
Connection – how do we re-connect with life, earth, soul, spirit?
Death and endings – how do we come into a more conscious and liberating relationship with death and endings?
Activism and Resistance – how do we make a stand and act for life?
Awakening – how do we best ‘wake up’ from the materialistic dream of the World?
Regeneration – how do we find others to collaborate with in order to save and restore what we can?
Purpose and Mission – what is uniquely ours to give at this time? What can we best collaborate with others upon?
Shadow what do our worst fears actually look like – are they driving, blocking or controlling us?
Livelihood – how do I make my way in a world that is broken and which is breaking the earth?
Wider Embraces is a guided meditation practise which offers comfort, integration and insight. I use it as a powerful and enriching part of the coaching alliance. Wider Embraces meditation can have many benefits, it can;
- Soothe the nervous system and our feelings of loss, facilitating acceptance, gratitude, belonging, awe and wonder based in a scientific understanding of reality
- Enhance understanding by enabling us to take different perspectives
- Ignite our mission – a passion for enacting inspired change which expresses our core values in solidarity with life and all beings
- Resource us to stand in resistance to forces which transgress our values and which do harm
- Engage with purpose towards embodied, material resilience and regeneration
- Transcend that which is broken, collapsing and ending, by connecting with universal and global processes of evolution and becoming
So how does this work?
I coach from the assumption that you are deeply wise, my job is to evoke, affirm and ignite that wisdom in the shadow of a world gone mad.
Part of you is already longing for the change and transformation your ignited wisdom will show you – the comfort zone is not actually comfortable.
My job is to engage your wisdom and lend you mine, as we focus together on whatever aspects of your Deep Adaptation will benefit from our attention. And then you you pay it forward… we all have to learn and adapt very quickly.
We will have a series of purposeful, powerful, dynamic, intimate and liberating conversations which go as deep as we are both willing and able, which are designed to enhance your capacity to adapt way beyond the period of our working together.
What that looks like will be defined by your deepest needs and what your unique world-view and struggle is. My framing is that you will become more effective and powerful in your adaptation to what is coming
Most of my coaching is online over video calls – which means I can work anywhere and keep my prices low, and my schedule flexible to meet yours.
My fees are not fixed. My standard fee is £500 for a three months coaching programme, but this can be discounted depending on your income bracket if we are a good match. I also offer up to two people pro-bono coaching at any given time…
I offer a free consultation (one to one and a half hours) where you can enjoy some powerful coaching without any obligation to continue, to see if we are a match, and work out how coaching could best serve you if you choose to continue. I consider it a success if we never even need to speak again…
Here’s what one person wrote to me after a single, one-off hour trial session…
“Hi Matthew. You gave me free coaching session in February. I promised to let you know how I’m getting on with things. My anxiety eased off and I don’t feel so lonely anymore. As you can see, Alice is definitely jumping into rabbit hole, and I wanted to thank you for that. For helping me to re-discover myself again! Many thanks”